You keep searching for that “perfect person”. Left swiping is your Friday night hobby. You’ve been on good, bad, awkward, amazing, wild, and weird dates. Crummy relationships are your “new normal.” Going from hopeful to heartbroken feels like the norm. Now, the newest Taylor Swift album has you all in your feelings and you don’t really know what to do with it. (Thanks for that, T.)
As a sensitive, introverted woman, you feel inauthentic in relationships, and unhappy being single.
The truth is…you lose yourself in relationships. Often, you end up becoming the person you think the person you are with wants to be with. A chameleon, or at “best”, a shadow of the person you really are. You’ve heard of healthy boundaries, but it doesn’t seem to work for you because voicing what you want seems to be too difficult or not worth the potential argument. You hold back on sharing your true needs to avoid being rejected or labeled as ‘too much.’
The lonely result? Perpetually single or trapped in a relationship where your needs are never met.
Here's the thing though: you have SO much to offer a person! Your potential partner or "perfect" partner would be so incredibly lucky to have you. I'm not just saying that to make you feel better. I am actually confident that it is true. As a sensitive, introverted woman, you are able to be in tune with not only your own emotions and needs but the needs and feelings of those around you. This is a priceless gift to a partner. And, the right partner would not just appreciate it but truly celebrate it. How incredible would that be? Instead of feeling like "too much" or rejected for your emotions and depth, to be celebrated for the beautifully complex human you are? This is not a dream, friend. This is the goal. In fact, this is the assignment.
What do Sensitive Introverts Need to Thrive in Love?
"If you wanna be my lover..." Yes, I'm quoting the Spice Girls here. But, let's actually dive into that a bit...they might be on to something:
"Yo, I'll tell you what I want
What I really, really want
So tell me what you want
What you really, really want."~"Wannabe" by the Spice Girls
As a sensitive, introverted woman, you haven't always felt comfortable sharing what you want. And, of course, you're not going to be open about your needs. This is a protective factor! Everything you are feeling and needing is so personal. So, if someone rejects those feelings or doesn't want to meet your needs, it feels like they are rejecting YOU as a person. However, telling someone what you want, what you really, really want can be the tipping point into what could become a beautiful relationship. And, they will feel more ready to actually voice what they want because you are such a caring and empathetic recipient of those needs. This sensitivity is a gift! You deserve to be in a romantic relationship with someone who loves all parts of you and doesn’t want you to be anything but who you are. This is what I want for you. What I really, really want. If you want to keep reading, start with my posts on dating while HSP, introvert dating tips, and dating anxiety.
Relationship Therapy for Sensitive, Introverted Women in Florida
I know what I'm talking about here. You may already know my story, but for those who don't, here's the quick version:
Seven years ago, I woke up to utter shock: My husband revealed he no longer wanted to be married. I fought this new reality and tried everything I knew to keep our crumbling relationship together. Truth be told, I didn’t want to admit we never should have married in the first place. I compromised myself for years to make the relationship work. I followed him for his job and settled for a soul-sucking city that held no joy or professional opportunities for me.
I get it. I am a licensed therapist and a sensitive introvert myself, and I offer online therapy in Florida for women who want love that fits who they are. If you live in Florida and see yourself in this post, I would love to support you.
To get started:
Reach out to me and share a little about what you are looking for
Decide together whether online therapy in Florida is a good fit for you
Discover the best ways to connect to your needs and wants, with the healthy boundaries you deserve.
