We’ve discussed a lot in the past few posts. Divorce, family pressures, embracing your introvert, and so much more. That said, it’s not all about those stressful or tenuous things. There are areas of your life where you DO feel free, happy, and proud! Heck yes, sister! Get that happiness. Allow that feeling to wash over you and fill you up!
Where is everyone else, though?
Like I said, you’re killing it in some amazing aspect of your life. It feels real and perfectly authentic to YOU. Yet, you don’t see anyone else doing what you do. You feel like it’s just you out here on this island making bold choices that make your true self so happy. As a sensitive, introverted woman in the world, you’ve taken notice. And, while it’s not going to diminish your shine, it does make you wonder. Where is everyone else? Am I all alone in this adventure? Or, are there others who might connect with how I’m feeling? Should I hold back or hide this part of myself to make others more comfortable?
What is it about YOU that makes you special?
You may be happily single. Partnered without traditional marriage. Or, child-free by choice. Perhaps you're out there rockin’ the entrepreneur life when no one thought you could. Maybe you found the love of your life after a tough divorce or breakup. Finally found radical acceptance and peace with the body you’ve been warring against for decades. Moved to the city of your dreams on your own. Whatever the path you are on, it’s YOURS and it feels amazing. When you allow it to feel that way. You are exactly where you know you need to be. That part isn’t scary at all.
Explaining your dream life to your friends and family
The questions at holiday gatherings. The confusion about what to call your partner. An endless barrage of questions from well-meaning but ultimately unsupportive people in your life who “just want the best for you." It all gets more than a little bit draining. So, you pull back. You stop bringing it up. You change the subject. Cause a distraction. Anything, just to not have to try to help someone else understand when they truly won’t. Ultimately, you dull your shine. You hide. Well, here’s my “bold stance” on that one:
What lights you up as a successful, happy, sensitive, introverted woman should not be hidden.
Yes. It’s true. Sure, they may not “get” it. They may think you are misguided. Quite frankly, they can think whatever they want. It’s theirs to deal with. You are living your amazing, thriving life. Exactly how you need to. And, anyone who truly loves and cares about you will support that. You may be a reluctant trailblazer in your circle. Which, does not mean you have to be the center of attention if you’d rather not be. However, when you want to share your life and dreams, you are giving those you love a gift. Your true, authentic self. What they choose to do with that is ultimately up to them. But, you can set and communicate loving boundaries around what you are willing to hear and explain and what you are not. While you cannot control the way people around you think and act, you can influence what is making its way into your orbit. If this post spoke to you, you may also find my posts on habits that build self-confidence, what women finding fulfillment believe, and prioritizing your relationship with yourself helpful.
Shine on, sister. And revel in the warmth of your own glow.
If you’re tired of hiding your shine and want to talk with someone who gets it, I’m here. I am a licensed therapist and a sensitive introvert myself, and I offer online therapy in Florida for women who want to let their light show without apology. If you live in Florida and see yourself in this post, I would love to support you.
To get started:
Reach out to me and share a little about what you are looking for
Decide together whether online therapy in Florida is a good fit for you
Spread your wings and fly, honoring your needs and desires as a sensitive introvert
